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I think it’s finally happened. After 18 months of almost constant togetherness in 240 sq. ft of space, I think we need a break. Everything Ray says and does lately annoys me. I have been pretty witchy and acting out. Poor Ray. When I get like this he’s never sure what to say or do. I’ve told him time and again but he’s not comfortable with the answer. That is until now. I think he’s reaching his breaking point.
I think it’s finally happened. After 18 months of almost constant togetherness in 240 sq. ft of space, I think we need a break. Everything Ray says and does lately annoys me. I have been pretty witchy and acting out. Poor Ray. When I get like this he’s never sure what to say or do. I’ve told him time and again but he’s not comfortable with the answer. That is until now. I think he’s reaching his breaking point.
Yesterday, I noticed the “5 gallon paint stirrer” sitting on
the bed. Last night, I was on the
computer as usual, he gets up from the couch and I hear.
“Let’s go.” And walks passed me into the bedroom.
He’s sitting on the end of the bed. He starts pulling down
my sweats and panties.
“Get on the bed, face up.”
This is new and I am wondering just what he has in mind. I do as I'm told and look at him.
“Legs up.”
" Huh."
" Huh."
“I said legs up, like when you are doing your exercises.”
I do as he says and he immediately starts in on my sit spots
with the paint stirrer.
“Ouch, don’t I even get a warm up?”
“This is the warm up.
Keep those legs raised. I’m
trying something different.”
I’m trying to be stoic, but it’s not working.
“ouch, ouch, ouch” I keep yelling.
When I couldn’t take any more I finally managed to get out
“Enough.”
“You think you’re done?”
“Yes” and he stopped after a
couple more swats.
I was pretty tender and am still a
little sore today. Guess what, there
was no dancing afterward. He got up and left the bedroom, went back out to the couch and turned on the movie. No words were spoken. I think he’s as frustrated with me as I am with
him. This was a first. We’ll have to see
how and where this goes, if anywhere?
See you later for more Aimless Ramblings.
See you later for more Aimless Ramblings.
So... what's your attitude? Did it help? You mad, mellow, happy? Come on I need to know.
ReplyDeletePretty much the same. So I guess it didnt help. I am not mad, mellow or happy.
Deletei hope that sit spot is feeling better today, and you two find some time to decompress & reconnect.
ReplyDeleteYes, it is better. We will reconnect, we're just going through a rough spot.
DeleteHi Sunny,
ReplyDeleteI8 months is a long time to be in 'confined quarters' and I think you have probably done well to get to this point without this happening earlier.
Wow, bet that must have come as a surprise! A turning point maybe? I guess time will tell. I hope the frustration eases soon.
Hugs,
Roz
It was a surprise and I'm surprised it hasn't happened sooner Have to schedule a week away soon.
DeleteIt will be fine, it always is.
Oh. Um..... wow. I don't really know what to say. How do you feel about this turn of events? Has this cleared the air any?
ReplyDeleteDee x
Really, all of that. I was surprised because it is something I have been "pushing" for years. Can't say it's cleared the air but it's okay.
DeleteHmmm ... not sure if I should offer words of sympathy or congratulations. In any case I'm sorry the two of you are so frustrated with each other and hope there is harmony again soon. At least Ray is willing to try something new.
ReplyDeleteMe either. Thanks for your thoughts. We will be fine, it's not the first time we've been frustrated with each other and I'm sure it won't be the last. Yes he was pretty inventive.
DeleteWell, 18 months in such a tiny space would break just about everybody, and a lot sooner I would imagine. I hope the air is cleared between you two today - then it'd all be worth it. How much longer are you 'confined'?
ReplyDeleteAnd where did Ray get the idea to spank you like that? I've read about that in books, but would never ever mention it to my hubby, even out of curiosity or for fun (lol) Ouch.
hugs,
Cali
The confinment is our choice. If we can ever decide where we want to settle, we quit the confinement. I think we just need a weekend away from each other. It's been a couple of months.
DeleteThe air will clear, it's really not that oppressive. I have no idea where he got that idea. I think he's been spending time on the internet or reading some blogs. It was ouchy. I wouldn't mention it either, not much padding there.
Oh Sunny, I don't really know what to say. Wanna come and stay with me for a bit?
ReplyDeletelove Jan.xx
Not much to say Jan. Thanks for the invite, how should I pack?
DeleteI think it probably helped both of you just a bit! What do you think? I am with everyone here...Let us know!
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure I felt any different, surprised more than anything. Ray seems the same too. Just a rough patch, we'll work it out.
DeleteAw Sunny, i'm as curious as everyone else! Did it help? Hopefully it helped a bit and the soreness is starting to go away a bit!
ReplyDeleteI don't think that it did. Soreness is gone, attitude hasn't changed.
DeleteHmmmm, interesting. Rey interesting. Ray may be on to something. Hope you're feeling better. Keep us posted. :)
ReplyDeleteDon't think I am. Guess it wasn't enough. We'll be okay, we always are, just a little rough patch that will get ironed out.
DeleteWe have rough patches a lot..they do work out..used to seem he would go a month without spanking me..he would get fed up and I would get the worse paddling!!! I hated it..
ReplyDeleteanyway hugs and yup u wilm be ok
Oh Daisy after 40+ years we will be fine. It was just a surprise knowing our history.
DeleteOh I understand what living in space quarters will do. It really isn't easy--even if it was totally your choice--rough patches are just that, "patches". If the good patches are more frequent, then you're doing just fine ;o)
ReplyDeleteFrustrating at times. We are fine. As I said above just a surprise.
DeleteI am sorry you are both in a rough patch at the moment, but like you said, it will get better in time. I can imagine being in close quarters like that, regardless of whether by choice and how much in love you are, could sometimes get on ones nerves. Take a little time for yourselves on your own, and then soon, you will both come back together with smiles.
ReplyDeleteI'm no longer getting email updates for new blog posts except for a few that are not on blogger. Haven't checked my blog roll - such a pain. Anyway, thanks for the heads up on Ami's story.
ReplyDeleteWhen I read Ray said, "...face up," I thought, wow, I don't recall Sunny writing about *this* position in their ttwd! Then, as I continued to read, I wasn't sure what I thought, but I felt the frustration blah from both of you.
Maybe Ray decided to take you up, somewhat, on the years of what you were pushing for. Have you discussed yet what he did and how you two felt about that, or the effects of overly close quarters? (You don't have to answer me, but I am wondering how this is moving along and if/how you addressed it. We have a different but similar scenario - not nearly as much in each other's pockets as you two, but some of the same flavor).
I just hope you lose any lingering megrims. It's much better when we can blow away the blahs and simply enjoy each other. Hugs to you, Sunny.
Wow Sunny...surprised me...has he been 'researching' on the internet?
ReplyDeleteI can definitely understand how tight spaces could get on both of your nerves.
My suggestion would be that you each rent a hotel room for a few days so that you can both be 'pampered' with maid service, room service, etc.
Blessings,
Cat
I think you've done amazingly well in tight quarters! Hope it cleared the air..
ReplyDeletehugs abby