This link is something I think we all need to watch and take to heart. We don't realize just how critical we are of ourselves and how others see us is usually not what we think. It's something to also pass on to our young daughters who are always so critical of themselves.
JIC I didn't do it right, I've also included the address below
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90v2mMbBB_M&feature=player_embedded
Attitude plays an important part also. So I guess I am just vertically challenged.
See you later for more Aimless Ramblings. Make it a great day.
I have always been critical of myself. I didn't realize how much until my oldest daughter said something negative about herself. Since then I've made a conscience effort to keep my opinion of myself silent. It's made a difference in her.
ReplyDeleteBtw, I'm vertically challenged as well. I stand a whopping 5' 2" at best.
I don't think there is a woman alive who likes every single thing about herself. We are constantly being bombarded by airbrushed perfect images, it's important we think better of ourselves.
DeleteWow that hit home Sunny, my daughter often goes on about her weight and I know it's my fault :(
ReplyDeleteI'm trying to be better myself so I can help her be strong and believe in herself, she's a beautiful and highly intelligent little girl, and I tell her that all the time, but I suppose until I believe in myself and show that to her, it's more of a do as I say not as I do, and that's a contradiction in term :(
Thanks for this x
It's not just your fault, the media has a hand in it as well. Keep working on her and yourself, as will I.
DeleteThanks Sunny, I too have always been highly self critical so thank you for sharing this wonderful message.
ReplyDeleteAs someone who is 'extremely' vertically challenged I love the pic LoL
Hugs,
Roz
You are welcome Roz. Dare I say if I wasn't vertically challenged I would be less horizontally challenged. LOL
DeleteAll 4 in my family must have gotten to perfection very quickly! I don't mind not getting any taller, but I still wish my growth 'outward' would stop!
ReplyDeleteI'm not getting taller but shorter, wider too.
DeleteThis is good stuff to think about Sunny! :). I can be fairly self critical at times. I do work hard to make sure that my daughters feel confident and good about themselves as they grow into their teen years/young adulthood.
ReplyDeleteI can't remember where I read or heard this, but what a father says to her daughter about how she looks as she grows, plays a very big role in how she sees herself later in life. I can see how that would be true. Rob has always been very good in that way. He often tells them and me as well, that we look beautiful without makeup- no need. Anyway, it is interesting.
I join the petite club at 5'3 3/4! Rob stands at 6'4"! :). Hugs!
<3 Katie
Hubby's a foot taller than me also. We have to do better for ourselves and the next generations. We have to start believing it's okay to like the way we look.
Deleteso true...feeling confident and not be self-critical is something I continue to strive for so I can bring those same feelings of confidence and self-assurance to my children...like anything a work in progress... As for the height...I guess it took quite a bit longer to become perfect for me :-)
ReplyDelete:), I bet you have the dancer's tall lithe body.
DeleteBecause no one ever bothered to pay me any compliments when I was young - I grew up with a shell Superman would have difficulty in prising open, even with a super-sized chisel. But inside I am so soft I can cry for England at the drop of a hat. It's not a comfortable combination. I was an only child, and I think that they didn't want to 'spoil' me.
ReplyDeleteIt made such a big impact on my confidence - in other words 'lack of it', that I always told my children when they were growing up that they were beautiful/handsome, clever, witty, talented. I so wanted them to turn into confident adults.
And they are. I'm not. But they are. I am soooo proud of them.
And as far as height is concerned, all I can say is how much I envy my slim and petite daughter at 5 ft 2 ins, and wish I wasn't 5 ft 6 and a half inches and hence, much higher when I wear my "silly" heels. Starman is only an inch taller than me, and for years I used to worry that he would feel upset if I was taller with the heels. I needn't have worried - but it took me years to understand his real feelings were the opposite of upset.
Thanks Sunny for drawing this to people's attention. It is so very important.
I think it is an important message to share and remember. Every one of us seem to wish for something we are not. Tall would like to be shorter, shorter would like to be taller - I guess it's human nature.
DeleteThanks for sharing this wonderful message Sunny...I have always been extremely critical of myself and constantly struggle with feeling confident.
ReplyDeleteNot as vertically challenged as some...same as Katie, I am 5'3 3/4" and don't you forget that 3/4". ;)
Have a great weekend.
Blessings,
Cat
Funny, but I know what you mean. My sister is shorter than I, at just over 5 feet tall and you better add that "just over" or she will remind you.
DeleteThanks for sharing this SG:) Wonderful message!
ReplyDeleteAs for height...I am actually 5'8" but always, well most of the time, wear heels which makes me right at 6ft. A lot of my friends that are tall won't wear heels because it makes them really tall but I just tell them to walk tall and walk proud:) Embrace that height:) that is what I do....hold those shoulders back and hold my head high and just smile:)
thank you again SG!
Belle:)
Good for you. Stand proud and tall.
DeleteI am 5'7"....so not vertically challenged either I suppose....but I never let that stop me from being critical about other things. Women can be their own worst enemy at times....and I need to work on that before Grace is big enough to hear what I am saying. Thanks for the reminder :))
ReplyDelete~Lucy
Yes, children are sponges, so never too early to start remembering to embrace yourself.
DeleteGreat post. I struggle at times and sure have made negative comments my kids heard. But I keep working on that! We are never too old to improve.
ReplyDeleteI am also vertically challenged...5'3 and 3/4" or 5'3 and 1/2" depending on 'who' measures me. Ha ha.
You're right about that, never too old. Doesn't it depend on how high your hair is on any given day. lol
DeleteI watched this video a few days ago, immediately starting crying, and then posted it out on my networks. I am like this, and I put much effort into our girls not being like this - but if I am not a good example myself, how am I really helping them to see their real beauty?
ReplyDeleteThank you for posting, Ami. Such an important message.
Elisa Xo
It is a good message and glad you were able to share it further.
DeleteSunnygirl, thank you for writing this .. It is so important for us parents, speceillt if we have daughters not to transfer our lack of confidence in our daughters.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was young, I used the parents do not praise the children so that they would not be spoild. I'm child number three out of 5. The first brother was smart, baby number two - boy was beautiful and talented and then coming .. little me ... lol ..
But I've learned a lesson. I often say to my children, and especially to my daughter how beautiful and talented they are and I'm very proud of them.
I agree and glad that you are able to pass on your lesson to your daughter.
DeleteWe women are very hard on ourselves. I am not vertically challenged at 5'6", but I tend to spread out horizontally without much effort. Images in the media make this much worse than it has to be and it is devastating on our young women especially. Thanks for posting this.
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lillie
I so agree with you Lillie. With all the size zero models that are sticks in real life and then air brushing as well, it's hard to let young women know that is unrealistic and so phony. We have to get the message out to them that it is okay to like the way you look.
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